7 Foolish Mistakes People Make When They Come Into Money

Have you come into a good sum of money? Don’t make these mistakes and mishandle your sudden wealth.

There is something uniquely human about the way many of us mishandle money, particularly when it’s received unexpectedly. Whether it’s a bequest, a court settlement, or a sweepstakes winning, suddenly coming into cash can unhinge any of us.

Every day the media reports the misery befalling citizens who previously struck it lucky, but then fell on hard times. We chuckle over poor Joe Slidebuck who pocketed a $3.8 million lottery winning just two years ago and is now filing bankruptcy. Of course, we breathe a collective sigh of relief that the misfortune is not ours, while wondering if we might have fared better under similar circumstances.

For various reasons, many persons can’t handle a windfall. Let’s analyze the common mistakes made.

1. An urge to spend.

Perhaps the single greatest weakness of mankind, and womankind, is an inability to resist purchasing things. The late English historian C. Northcote Parkinson summed it up in his 1960 masterpiece The Law and the Profits: “Expenditures invariably rise to meet and exceed available income.”

It’s this impulse to spend whatever is available that’s the undoing of many otherwise rational individuals. It’s not necessarily human nature. Rather, it’s a learned reflex that must be unlearned if you hope to remain solvent. If not held in check, spontaneous spending is a recipe for disaster.

2. Voices out of the past.

It’s amazing how many people you knew that you no longer see, that is until your name appears in the paper. Within days cousin Calvin phones to remind you how his current misfortune can be resolved if you can just see your way clear to assisting him.

And don’t forget your former classmate Ernie, with whom you stopped exchanging Christmas cards a decade ago. His email extols the close camaraderie you two always shared, adding that the technology IPO his brokerage firm is underwriting is certain to be right up your alley.

If you fail to fend off these moochers and hangers-on, you’ll find yourself in deep trouble.

3. Take care with those who are closest.

With newfound prosperity, relations with friends and relatives begin to change as you are viewed as something apart. It seems that admiration and envy are opposite sides of the same coin, and you will be the recipient of both emotions. Your advice and assistance will be solicited, and although you may at first welcome the attention as a novelty, you will eventually find it more burdensome than complimentary.

The pressures to be placed upon you can become overwhelming. If you don’t take a step backward, life can become most unpleasant.

4. Loss of anonymity.

You are now a known and recognized commodity in your community and as such a natural target. You may expect requests for contributions. Invitations to attend various functions will be forthcoming. You may even find yourself offered honorary positions or encouraged to become involved in activities for which you have no real interest.

The toughest job of all will be to say “no.”

5. The investment trap.

For those without prior investment expertise, coming into money can be an intimidating experience. No one is born with an ability to astutely manage assets. This is a talent that requires knowledge and practice.

Perhaps the safest procedure is to refrain from any investment decisions for a full year, while any windfall is parked in non-risk vehicles such as certificates of deposit, government insured savings accounts, and treasury notes.

During that period of time, educate yourself. If you attempt to become involved before you acquire an appreciation of the risks and rewards, you are fair game for the thieves and charlatans who regularly prey upon moneyed novices.

6. Charity is often uncharitable.

Unfortunately, there is not enough money in the world to satisfy the myriad of organizations with outstretched hands. Charitable institutions that are carefully selected and effectively monitored can be an excellent way to share your good fortune in a meaningful way, but simply pouring out dollars in a spastic impulse is no way to accomplish any good.

7. Beware of yourself.

I’ve saved for last the most potentially insidious mistake of all. A malevolent effect of sudden prosperity can be your relationship with yourself.

Despite the personal unpleasantness of lack of money, it imposes no demands on the ego. Affluence is another matter entirely, and the pressures it creates can be formidable. It is fulfilling the mundane requirements needed to meet daily financial obligations that keeps many people in balance. When this necessity is removed, the balance often goes with it. If you then add to that the ability to acquire unneeded possessions, exert unwanted influence on others, and seek unwarranted involvement, the potential for impairment is unlimited.

One thing is certain: You must come to terms with yourself or you will surely live to regret it.

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Reviewed March 2024

About the Author

Al Jacobs has been a professional investor for nearly four decades. His business experience ranges from real estate, mortgage, and securities investment to appraisal, civil engineering, and the operation of a private trust company. In addition to managing his investments on a day-to-day basis, he is a featured financial columnist for both online and print publications.